Walk into your local neighborhood coffee shop on a busy morning and look around.
You may know very little, if anything, about the people around you. You might have seen them around town, and they may have a similar taste in coffee, but you’re probably not deeply connected.
Even in a crowd, we can feel very alone.
Being a creative is often viewed as a lonely existence. We spend much of our time alone with our thoughts, our projects and our instruments. But that’s not our entire reality.
Our relationships help to define the reality we live in. This implies if we want to change our reality, we have to be willing to change and adapt to new relationships.
Similarly, the level of our artistic success correlates directly to the quality of the relationships that we cultivate. If your career has stagnated, it’s likely that you’ve stopped trying to make new relationships.
Ask yourself these questions. Answer honestly.
“Have I pursued new partnerships?”
“Am I willing to step out of my comfort zone to connect with new people?”
If not, your world will remain as it is now. But if you want to expand your world, you must expand your connections.
It is not good for man to be alone. Hitherto all things that have been named were approved of God to be very good: loneliness is the first thing which God’s eye named not good.– John Milton.
What are some practical ways to cultivate new relationships? Here’s a few suggestions:
- Attend a local arts workshop.
- Volunteer for a local school or charity.
- Find an open mic and share your talent with others.
- Meet a fellow artist over coffee.
- Contact a potential mentor and ask them for their wisdom and advice.
It all starts with our willingness to reach out to others.
Instead of seeing those people in the coffee shop as strangers, consider them potential friends and partners. Maybe even offer to buy coffee for the person in front of you.
You’ll never know where a new connection might lead you.