The Annoying Artist: How to stay cool when relationships don’t click

The best way to avoid creative conflict is to be proactive and prepared

You feel it coming.

The rise in your heartbeat. The clenching of your fist. The tensing of the muscles in your neck.

And all because you aren’t comfortable working with a fellow artist.

How can you keep your cool when creative personalities clash?  

Pawns or Partners: How being selfish hurts your career

Creatives must honestly assess their motives when making connections

It’s true. We all want to know the ‘right people’.

If you talk to a fellow creative and they are being honest, they’ll admit some of their relationships are based on the opportunity the other party represents. While we may not mean to use people selfishly, we usually slide toward making connections that we think will benefit us in the long run. There’s nothing inherently wrong with mutually beneficial relationships where both parties are interested in greater influence and career growth.

There is something wrong, however, in viewing partners as pawns and not as people.

Here’s an example of what can happen when we do just that.

A certain king, while his soldiers are off battling an enemy, begins having an affair with one of his soldier’s wives, and she becomes pregnant. In his attempt to cover up his actions, the king personally calls the woman’s husband back from the battlefield. The soldier is wined and dined as the king attempts to get him to go back home to his wife, in hopes of ending the suspicion that the child to be born was not his own.  When the soldier refuses the offer due to his loyalty to his brethren on the battlefield, the king has him strategically assigned to the most dangerous missions until he is killed.

Was the king concerned about this soldier as a person? As a loyal supporter who was risking his life for him? Or was he simply discarding a man whose service he once valued, but now represented a threat to his reputation?

When we forget that the people that work for us, and with us, are people who deserve respect and fair treatment even when the relationship doesn’t suit our purposes, we take on a spirit of manipulation.

That’s not how you want to be remembered in your relationships.

To self-evaluate your motives, ask yourself:

If this person could not help my career at all, would I stay connected?

Can I be happy for her if her success doesn’t involve me?

Do I only think of him in terms of how he can help me?

A true relationship always involves more giving than taking. Be honest, generous, and authentic with others even when the relationship isn’t centered around your goals.

You’ll go farther with partners than you will with pawns.

The saying is true – no man is an island.

However, being a creative professional can sometimes make you feel as if you are stranded and alone in the midst of an ocean.

The artist’s lifestyle requires an unique blend of creative energy and entrepreneurship that is not easy to understand. To be successful at it, most artists have to do something that creative people often struggle with- that is, getting support from others.

We as artists usually find that kind of support from different sources. In this week’s poll question, we’re asking for the primary source of your support. Who do you feel you rely on the most for spiritual, emotional and financial support in your field?

Vote, share your thoughts, and compare your responses with other artists.

Coffee and Creatives: A look back at our local hangout

A day of artists sharing and connecting in a relaxed, welcoming environment

In February 2017 we had the opportunity to gather local artists, creative entrepreneurs and freelancers at our Con/Ex event at the Warsaw Coffee Company in Fort Lauderdale. We enjoyed lively discussions, made new friends and shared our perspectives on the creative lifestyle.  Here’s a little recap of our afternoon. For more info on when we’re holding these artist connection events, check the events page

 

 

 

 

The Creative Connection: Why artists should reach out to others

To stay inspired, artists should intentionally seek out new partnerships

Walk into your local neighborhood coffee shop on a busy morning and look around.

You may know very little, if anything, about the people around you. You might have seen them around town, and they may have a similar taste in coffee, but you’re probably not deeply connected.

Even in a crowd, we can feel very alone.